Everyone has a lot on their minds these days, it seems. Of course, there’s a lot to think about. America’s economy, even the world’s economy, is going through some pretty interesting times. Many, many people are losing their jobs as employers try to cut costs. I am part of that statistic myself. Lots of people have seen their 401k’s deflate rapidly, learning that their future security isn’t as secure as they once thought. Don’t forget the housing market, which gets it’s share of the blame for starting this mess. Overall, there is much to think about, talk about, and possibly worry about.
Worrying isn’t helpful. Jesus said “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?” In the second half of Matthew 6, Jesus had several things to say about worrying, all in the vein of “don’t do it”. Not worrying is pretty difficult to do for most people. I would like to point out that worrying is mostly a solitary activity. Not only do we usually do it when we are alone, we often do it in a vacuum. How’s that? We keep our worries to ourselves. A very effective antidote for worry is to talk about what’s got you down. Sadly, in the 21st century that’s easier said than done. Life is so fast paced, and schedules are so full that it’s difficult to find time to sit down with a trusted friend and talk about anything serious. Oh, and that’s if you HAVE a trusted friend. Another rampant problem in our time is loneliness. Forming real friendships and connecting on a deep level takes time. Time that few people have.
People who are part of a church do have it a bit easier in this area. At least they have a regular opportunity to be with other like minded people, which would seem to be very helpful in forming friendships. Sometimes it is. Other times, it’s a tantalizing dream that somehow stays just out of reach. The truth is, most relationships formed in church are just as superficial as any others. In fact, because of the context many folks are reluctant to reveal too much about their true selves for fear of being rejected. I’m not saying that church can’t be a place where real friendships are formed. I have experienced it myself a time or two. It IS rare, though, in my experience.
There is another rapidly growing group of people who often find themselves alone. They are Christians who have left the traditional church environment and are living a life of faith in a less structured way. Although these gentle people often find their relationship with God has improved, they also find that their human relationships have suffered.
What we are left with here is a whole lot of isolated people, who could really benefit from more fellowship, more conversation, and more encouragement. Our society, and the church within it, are not geared toward providing any of these consistently.
That’s where people like me can help. There are many professional life coaches out there who specialize in listening, brainstorming problems, and, when asked, giving sound advice. I’m not writing this to advertise my own coaching practice. Rather, I’m trying to raise awareness about life coaching and the benefits that can be derived from having a personal coach.
Anyone who has read all of my blogs knows that I benefitted greatly from having my own coach during a difficult time in my life. Although I no longer work with Mike professionally, we are still good friends and stay in touch regularly. One advantage to life coaching is that it can be done over the phone. I did not meet Mike face to face until we had been working together for over six months. Conversations aren’t limited to certain times or geographic locations. They can be scheduled to fit within the open spaces that may occur in our already busy lives.
Right now, in these uncertain economic times, many life coaches like Mike and myself are offering free teleconferences and seminars. This is a great way to find out more about how life coaching looks in practice, and you may also benefit from what is offered on the calls. There are many coaches out there. All of the ones I have met are really kind and generous people who desire to help others in any way they can. It might be worthwhile to consider if working with your own coach would be a benefit to you. Chances are, it would be.