I may step on a few toes today. If I step on yours, I’m sorry, but I have to get this out. This is a subject that has been bothering me for quite some time.
There’s a lot of talk these days about people finding “their” truth. Frankly, the idea sounds like nonsense to me. When did truth become a personal commodity to be owned? I understand that everyone has a point of view. That’s natural. However, that should never be confused with truth. I have always liked the saying “There are three sides to every story – yours, mine, and the truth.” I understand that, and I agree. This whole “your truth”/”my truth” thing seems like some kind of feel good invention to keep people from ever having to admit they’re wrong, or feel the weight of being wrong. Well, guess what? We are all human and we are all wrong from time to time. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, having the wisdom and humility to admit when you are wrong is a very GOOD thing, and we would all benefit from learning how to do that better.
I can see where the whole self esteem movement that started in the 90’s could be behind this. It doesn’t feel good to be wrong and have it pointed out to you. I get that. However, not admitting you’re wrong and not being wrong are two totally different animals. Sure it feels good to be right, but what about believing you’re right all the time and never having to face the reality of the situation, which is…. you’re not. Calling it something else doesn’t change what it is.
What could be even more damaging, is the idea that objective truth doesn’t need to be sought out in a given situation. You have your truth, I have mine. We both miss the point completely in leaving it at that. I understand that disagreements are often unpleasant, but who said life doesn’t have unpleasant experiences? Discomfort often leads to growth and learning when the experience is applied properly. Being wrong isn’t necessarily a bad thing when you realize that you are and seek to remedy the situation.
Objective truth is real. Subjective truth is a myth, a construct designed to keep everyone feeling good about themselves. I can’t support that. It’s not the wild and free way to live.